I am passionate about helping...
...activists embrace their power and prioritize radical self care
...therapists uncover places they feel stuck
...teachers recharge and recalibrate after feeling overworked and burnt out
...musicians and artists find direction and deepen creative passion (even if you're feeling the furthest thing from "creative" right now)
...developers and coders feel less socially stressed and discover ways to connect with others
...college students and adolescents navigate changes in identity and expectation
Transformation is ... well, messy and painful. You might be tempted to pick a stressful or self-sabotaging behavior (like drinking too much, sleeping too late, or feeling too self-critical) and want to change it so you'll feel better and get on with things.
The truth is, it can be really hard to change. We are taught that if something hurts, we change ourselves– and if we still don't feel happy, it's our fault (or someone else's). But I see change as a side-effect of doing the work to get to know yourself. During our work, you might find that your pain comes from not feeling truly honest with yourself, feeling bogged down by shame or unsupported by friends and family, or feeling like you should be happy but just... aren't.
So how can you start to understand your own mind and heart, and bring to light your secrets, pain, and desires? By addressing what makes you feel afraid of yourself and other people, by getting to know those soft feelings underneath your powerful impulses, by making room for your needs, talking about shame, and embracing your voice and vision.
I get how hard it can be to honestly face parts of ourselves that are in pain. Therapy is an opportunity for you to gain greater awareness of (and therefore greater power in) your life. You can learn the skills to set healthy boundaries, listen to and defuse your critical voice, and find new ways to get your needs met that don't involve hurting or sabotaging yourself or your relationships.
Call me and we can start to discover what needs have been buried and how to open your life to more authenticity, agency, intention, and joy.
together, we can approach the things
that seem unapproachable.
Call me at my Berkeley office, 510-594-4035, for a free phone consultation today.
"And the speaking will get easier and easier. And you will find you have fallen in love with your own vision, which you may never have realized you had. And you will lose some friends and lovers.... And new ones will find you and cherish you. ... And at last you'll know with surpassing certainty that only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth. And that is not speaking.” - Audre Lorde