You're creative, opinionated, and self-reliant. You're hungry to discover new things and make a positive impact on the world.
You also feel intense and debilitating doubts, anxieties, and self-criticism. Like, maybe one frustrating mistake at work or in your relationship makes you run and hide, shouting: "This is why I can't have nice things!!"
You're tired of feeling stuck with friends or family who feel more like emotional vampires than a support system. You want the energy to build a fulfilling life, but you're drained and depleted by self-criticism, loneliness, or a job that doesn't satisfy you.
You're accomplished and strong, and have been successful at a lot of what you put your mind to. This includes developing an expertise in the art of "numbing out". Some of your favorite numb-out tools include food, work, shopping, alcohol, Netflix, and exercise. Sometimes it seems like you put on the healthy and happy face at work, but when you go home you think, "what am I doing with myself and my life?" and then drink a bottle of wine or find an empty tub of ice cream where a full tub used to be. When it comes down to it, you actually do want to have deep relationships and a fulfilling life, but you feel like you just don't know how to, or like nothing you try works the way you hoped.
If you know you can't do it all by yourself,
If you're feeling stuck in unsatisfying relationships and work,
If you feel beaten up by self-criticism,
If you feel like you've had to grow up too fast,
It doesn't have to be this way.
If this cycle is exhausting and you want it to stop, call me.
I am a psychodynamic, relational, analytically-oriented therapist. Which means: if you've tried behavioral interventions and want something deeper, I can help. I believe that behaviors are communications by your emotions that deserve to be listened to and understood, not suppressed. (In fact, as we work together, you may discover there are some behaviors you thought you would want to change, but actually you don't.) I support the deep and challenging work of helping you face your fears and shift that critical inner voice so that you have more energy for creativity, fulfilling relationships, play and work. I believe that both you and the world need your passion and your vision to come alive. Over time, you can become more aware of your feelings, needs, and desires, and feel more self-confident and connected.
It's time to stop hiding. Let me help you live the life you desire.
Call me at my Berkeley office, 510-594-4035, for a free phone consultation today.
"And the speaking will get easier and easier. And you will find you have fallen in love with your own vision, which you may never have realized you had. And you will lose some friends and lovers.... And new ones will find you and cherish you. ... And at last you'll know with surpassing certainty that only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth. And that is not speaking.” - Audre Lorde