You're creative, smart, thoughtful, and self-reliant. You're hungry to discover new things and make a positive impact on the world.
You also feel doubts, anxieties, and self-criticism, sometimes pretty intensely. Like, maybe one frustrating mistake or miscommunication at work or in your relationship makes you blow up or want to sink into the floor and disappear. You might think to yourself: "This is why I can't have nice things!!"
You're tired of feeling stuck with friends or family who feel more like emotional vampires than a support system. You want the energy to build a fulfilling life, but you're drained and depleted by self-criticism, loneliness, unfulfilling relationships, or an unsatisfying job.
You're accomplished and determined at work, but your love life feels complicated and lacking. You have wondered on occasion, "Why is it so hard for me to open up?" You feel overwhelmed, so you numb out with food, work, shopping, alcohol, Netflix, exercise. People see a happy face, but inside you wonder: "what am I doing with myself and my life?"
When it comes down to it, you actually do want to have deep, fulfilling relationships, but you need some help getting there.
If you are starting to realize you can't do it all by yourself,
If you want to feel more connected and alive,
If you're feeling stuck in unsatisfying relationships and work,
If you feel beaten up by self-criticism,
If you feel like you've had to grow up too fast,
If this cycle is exhausting and you want it to stop,
contact me to find out how I can help.
My style is warm and relational, and I am a psychodynamic, relational, psychoanalytically-oriented therapist. Which means: if you've tried behavioral interventions and want something deeper, I can help. I believe that behaviors are communications by your emotions that deserve to be listened to and understood, not suppressed or criticized. (In fact, as we work together, you may discover there are some behaviors you thought you would want to change, but actually you don't.) I support the deep and challenging work of helping you face your fears and shift that critical inner voice so that you have more energy for creativity, fulfilling relationships, play and work. I believe that both you and the world need your passion and your vision to come alive. Over time, you can become more aware of your feelings, needs, and desires, and feel more self-confident and connected.
It's time to stop hiding from the life you really want to live.
Call me at my Berkeley office, 510-594-4035, for a free phone consultation today.
"And the speaking will get easier and easier. And you will find you have fallen in love with your own vision, which you may never have realized you had. And you will lose some friends and lovers.... And new ones will find you and cherish you. ... And at last you'll know with surpassing certainty that only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth. And that is not speaking.” - Audre Lorde