If the day-to-day, seemingly mundane stuff evokes intense feelings in you, you might start to think you're going crazy. But actually, it's more likely that you're grappling with:
- relationship or family troubles
- separation or loss
- the news/the current political climate
- cultural trauma
- work challenges
- communication problems
I work with people who are adults now but were traumatized or neglected as kids. Men who are tough and sensitive and can't find a blueprint for how to live their lives. Teachers who want to help so much but end up draining all their resources. Artists whose self-criticism gets in the way of creative projects. Athletes plateauing in sport. White people wanting to address their participation in a racist system. I also work with other therapists and healers who are struggling to navigate their own personal history and internal terrain with that of their clients.
Oh, and let's not forget coping mechanisms. I'll venture to say, you've got those covered. You work hard to prioritize self-care, but end up feeling too drained to take care of yourself. You numb out with food, work, shopping, alcohol, Netflix, or exercise, and the cycle of exhaustion continues. While people see your "coping" face, on the inside you feel lonely and disconnected. You wish people could know the real you, and you didn't have to bottle yourself up in order to get by.
You actually do want to have deep, fulfilling relationships, but you need some help getting there.
If you realize you can't do it all by yourself,
If you want to feel more connected to others,
If you're feeling stuck in unsatisfying relationships and work,
If you feel beaten up by perfectionism and self-criticism,
If you feel like you've had to grow up too fast,
I can help you face the parts of yourself and your history that are too intimidating to face on your own.
If you've tried behavioral interventions and want something deeper, I can help. With a warm, relational, style, I offer attention and thoughtfulness to our work together, always with a mind on what's beneath the surface. As we work together, you may discover there are some things in your life you thought you would want to change, but actually you don't. I support the deep and challenging work of helping you face your fears and get to know the message behind that critical inner voice. My style of therapy, which is relational psychoanalytic psychotherapy, supports moving closer to your distress in order to know it – and you – better over time. This kind of therapy takes courage. By moving closer to the things you have pushed away, we may uncover a renewed energy and space for creativity, fulfilling relationships, and a balance between play and work.
It's time to stop hiding from the life you really want to live.
Call me at my Berkeley office, 510-594-4035, for a free phone consultation today.
"And the speaking will get easier and easier. And you will find you have fallen in love with your own vision, which you may never have realized you had. And you will lose some friends and lovers.... And new ones will find you and cherish you. ... And at last you'll know with surpassing certainty that only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth. And that is not speaking.” - Audre Lorde